Am I safe?
If you are living in fear, having to watch your back, check every word you say, report on everything you do, you are not safe.
In a safe environment your physical safety is assured.
In a safe relationship you are respected and valued.
In a safe relationship you are free to say no to sex without having this used against you.
In a safe relationship your opinions and thoughts are respected.
In a safe relationship you have equal access to and control over financial matters.
In a safe environment your spiritual beliefs are respected.
In a safe relationship you choose your friends and meet with them freely.